Communities are so funny; they're formed on the core thesis that a set of humans like each other / have common or vested interests, then decide to come together as a collective
But the actual bonding happens through such disgusting means; common enemy, constant back-bitching, gossiping
Common Enemy
Every community has subsets of groups; each group has different members with slightly different perspectives, interests, and often times common hatred towards certain individuals
Hate (and even love) is such a strong emotion; strong enough to facilitate quick advancement of a relationship status as a stranger to even best friend
The feeling of you saying things you "shouldn't" about someone you both know, the act of implicitly "trusting" someone so as to bestow upon them a certain juicy tidbit; it's such a fascinating concept
Endless Bitching & Gossiping
Even among subsets, often times, there are overlapping subsets or even furthermore subsets
Here another binding force is exchange of information (gossip)
It's the same concept as before; saying things you "shouldn't"
Takeaway
There is no takeaway
I, as an individual, am stuck in a conundrum
To bitch, or not
How do you bond instantly with others if not over common hatred / gossip
Though on the other hand, how do you prevent the exchange from thereafter biting you in the ass?